I recently made an offer to purchase several copies of Handwoven from the 1980s from someone who advertised them for sale on another site. She accepted my offer and asked that I send a check. I wrote on Saturday to ask if my check had been received and I just received the following email: Yes, your check came in Sat.'s post. In the meantime however someone else contacted me to buy all the mags and her check came as well, so I'll be returning your check today. I'm sorry to disappoint you but I need to sell all rather than some. I hope you understand.
I don't understand and I believe this seller made a commitment to me without notifying me she had another offer. Then, poof, the mags I wanted are gone. I didn't go shopping for other offers and I passed up other opportunities because I expected I was purchasing these.
I am not going to out her but I am more than disappointed. I feel it's unethical. What do you think? Am I wrong? Does she get to choose whom to sell her mags to even if she made a verbal (email written) commitment to me? I'd like to hear your opinion.
Claudia
Give it up. Some folks don't operate by the same set of standards. You just lived it. As long as you get your check back you are good, disappointed but okay. At least she didn't cash it.
I agree with Deb. She was honest enough to return your cheque and you can go ahead and look for another seller...annoying, but ultimately no harm done?
Cheers,
Laura
You are both right. It's no big deal. I did respond to her email and said I was disappointed and left it at that. Surprise of all surprises, she wrote back and said she hadn't considered it from my point of view and would send me the mags as agreed. And, she apologized. I am extremely pleased she stepped back and thought about it and is planning on mailing the mags as agreed. Very pleasantly surprised. I was passed it and now I am doubly pleased.
Claudia
All's well that ends well. :)
Cheers,
Laura
Are you looking for certain years in particular? I recently acquired a large collection of Handwovens. Possibly I have the ones you are looking for.
Yes, I am. I will PM you the list of Handwovens I am most interested in owning.
Thanks,
Claudia
Dear Claudia, Good for you for speaking up, for being assertive and letting her know how her behavior affected you. You gave her an opportunity to step back and review the situation and she clearly is a person with values and she connected to them. Good for you for not outing her until you could get feedback and consider your options.
Thanks Jerri. I believe that if I were being stubborn about something I would hope someone would tell me and not out me. I try not to do unto others as I would not want done unto me. Or as close to that as possible. It was nice that she stepped back and considered my point of view and changed her mind. I have a great deal of respect for her having done that and not because it worked to my favor.
Claudia
Claudia, do you have all of the issues of Weaver's magazine? It was more informative than Handwoven, by far. Let me know if you want some issues of Shuttle, Spindle and Dyepot or American Craft magazine. I need to get rid of more of those.
I started weaving in 1967 and moved into this house in 1976. The magazines have been piling up. I know that Weaver's and Complex Weavers Journal will go with me when I move.
Thanks for the offer Bonnie. I have a few issues of Weavers and keep my eyes open for others all the time. I belong to CW and PFAG so can get the books I need from those libraries. My collection is lacking when it comes to color and several of the issues of Handwoven from the 1980s are cited in the color section of the COE bibliography. That was my goal.
Claudia
I just found some HANDWOVEN magazines from the 1980's that I had forgotten I had....these are duplicates in my collection and I'm willing to sell them if someone wants them...
Summer 1984
Sept-Oct 1984
Nov-Dec 1984
Complete set 1985 (5 issues)
Complete set 1986 (5 issues)
Complete set 1987 (5 issues)
Whole lot $65.00 including priority mail postage in the US.
Please contact me if interested....
Su
I'm pleased you told her of your disappointment and that you received your mags. But, I do agree that it was unethical for her to sell to someone else after a verbal agreement was made between the two of you. I recently had similar experiences and was very disappointed.
I was selling items and amidst discussion with a buyer who informed me they were also listed on ebay. I had made an ebay draft but decided not to sell on ebay. My DH posted them by accident. Buyer & I had not reached point of "where to send the check" but nontheless the buyer was very upset! I felt awful and apologized - from thereon it just got worse! It was a mistake on my part and a lesson learned. BUT! I have also had an offer on items accepted and when I asked where to send the check, been told "sold". Since my "oops" I have been much more careful!
